Most people are reluctant to strike up a conversation about death. It’s an uncomfortable topic, but sometimes, it is a necessary topic. If you want to make sure your loved ones understand your thoughts and wishes for your care at the end of your life, you need to talk about it. Here are some helpful tips on how to strike up a conversation about your end-of-life care.
It’s a good idea to prepare yourself before you have a conversation with your loved ones. You could make a list of things you feel strongly about, and issues that you want to be ready for. You could have a practice conversation with a friend if that is easier for you. Being prepared for an end-of-life conversation helps you keep things straight in your own mind. The conversation may get emotional, or your loved one may argue with you, so you need to be prepared to be strong and sure.
Who you have the conversation with is important to consider. There may be several family members or loved ones who should be aware of your end-of-life wishes. My Living Wishes can help you, too. We can prepare the advance directive that you need to make your end-of-life wishes official.
The hardest part is usually getting the conversation started. Try one of these ice-breakers:
As your conversation progresses, consider talking about these topics:
These are just some of the issues you could talk about. There’s no right or wrong way to have an end-of-life care conversation. Get it started, and then let it move along naturally. Be patient with others as they think about what you are saying. You could have more conversations later, bringing up ideas or topics that you missed.
If you would like to get started with your end-of-life planning, please let us help. We’re here to make it easy to understand.